I love meeting - and having the opportunity to talk with - Koreans.
But 9 times out of 10, the conversation routinely goes a bit like this…
Korean person - Umm… Hi, excuse me. Where are you from?
Me - I'm from America.
Korean - Aahhh America. How long have you been in Korea?
Me - This is my 3rd year living in Korea.
Korean - Oh! So you can speak Korean?
Me - No. Only a little.
Korean - Oh, I see. How old are you?
Me - I'm 27 international age, 29 Korean age.
… and here comes my favorite part…
Korean - Are you married?
Me - No.
Korean - Do you have boyfriend?
Me - No.
Korean - Why?
Why?
Really?!
You're asking me 'Why am I single?'.
Can we drive that knife in just a little bit more?!
Geeeezzzz.
But!! Instead of answering your deflating and upsetting question, I'm choosing to share this article. I will let this be… not the answer (because if I knew the answer to 'why', I suppose I wouldn't be single), but my rebuttal in a way.
So listen up people (men)! This is my advice to you… for me ;)
Date a Girl Who Travels
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Date a girl who travels.
Date a girl who would rather save up for out of town trips or day trips than buy new shoes or clothes. She may not look like a fashion plate, but behind that tanned and freckled face from all the days out in the sun, lies a mind that can take you places and an open heart that will take you for what you are, not for what you can be.
Date a girl who travels.
Yes, a girl who travels knows that anytime, anything can happen and she just has to be prepared [for] it. Nothing takes her by surprise; she takes everything with equanimity, knowing that such things are always a part of life. She's reliable and dependable, traits that she's learned while on the road.
You'll recognize a girl who travels by the fact that she's always amazed at the world around her, no matter if she's in her home town or in a place that's totally new. She sees beauty all around her, not just [in places] featured in travel guides or shown in postcards. A girl who travels has developed a deeper appreciation for life. She won't judge you, or pressure you to do things you don't want to do. She knows too much about the importance of identity and self-efficacy, and she will appreciate all the more if you won't pretend to be who you're not.
Date a girl who travels, because when you're with her, you'll realize that even though she's napped at a temple in Angkor Wat, went boating down the Mekong Delta, ran by the streets of Saigon, or went skinning-dipping in the caves in the Philippines, she still retains that humility that is the mark of a real traveler. She knows she's been to a lot of places, but she's humbled by the fact that the world is still a big place and she's only seen a small part of it. Seeing this in her can make you feel all right with yourself too; there's no need for you to do more, to be more. What you are is enough.
When you meet a girl who travels, ask her where she's been and what she'd going to do next. She will appreciate your interest, and if you're lucky, she may even invite you to join her. When she does, do. Nothing bonds people better than traveling. On your trips, you will both see each other's best and worst characteristics, and you can then decide whether she's worth fighting for.
Is a girl who travels worth it?
Yes, she is. So when you find her, keep her. Don't lose her with your insecurities and doubts. Because when she says she loves you, she really does. After all, she'd seen so many things, met so many people, and if she had chosen you, better grab that opportunity and thank the gods that you were lucky enough she's chosen you and not that bloke she met while watching the sun rise in Angkor Wat, or while whitewater rafting in the Padas Gorge in Sabah.
If she says she loves you, she must have seen something in you, something that can always call her back from her travels, something that can anchor her to the world in the way that she wants to after weeks and months of being on the road.
Date a girl who travels.
Make her feel safe, warm, and secure. Make her believe that no matter where she goes, and however long she's gone, you'll always be there for her, the one that she can call home.
Find a girl who travels. Date her, love her, and marry her, and your world will never be the same again.
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